Fly Me to the Moon that rests Somewhere Over the Rainbow...

I find it truly difficult to be continuously optimistic about my relationship when those around me are failing. Even though I feel guilty about it, I do try to learn from the mishaps that others encounter so I don’t have to make the same mistakes and feel the same pain. Hey, why should they be the only ones who benefit from such suffering? Jokes aside, I do think anyone can learn from a mistake, no matter whose mistake it was.

To fall in love is a beautiful thing. To be in love is even better. Staying in love takes some work though! Attempting everlasting growth in the lover’s realm truly takes deliberate patience! For those of you who know me, you know I will tell anyone who listens how much I love being in love. It just makes everyday life that much easier. I have to say though, when the stuff hits the fan, everyday tasks seem like they take every ounce of strength. Not to say that without love, there is nothing, but I will say love makes folks happy. Without happiness, there is not much to life.

I’m all for strong relationships no matter what race, but black love is so beautiful when it’s real. We’ve been conditioned to believe that we don’t deserve the same privileges that others do because of the color of our skin. That’s as big of a lie as them telling you that your vote doesn’t count. I’m sidetracking, I know, but I needed to throw that in there ;-) Although “the others” (hahaha) would like for us to believe we are conditioned to love each other, we must show them how it’s done and supposed to be.

I say all this to make a note that it is much easier to be happy in life. Now let’s make it clear that I don’t believe that happiness always equals being in love, I just used that as a jump off since it was the inspiration for this piece in the first place. The bottom line: Everything good in your life is worth the strife. Especially love.

Scenes of a Sistah:Past and Present

Just a thought...
I understand that we as black women have a historical trait of being nurturing. It is true that in the past we took care of everyone; our slave masters, their families, other slaves' children, and that list goes on. The only person that it does not include is us! For now, I have something to say regarding "nurturing."

I think it's cool to support your man. If you have a man who is all about doing what's best for the BOTH OF YOU, then he does deserve your "bestest." I say this because when stuff hits the fan, you know he has your back. Of course, there are limitations and you should know your own.

Ladies, I only have one thing to say about this one...While you take care of everyone around you, make sure someone is taking care of you. I look at it this way...If I don't take care of me, who will? God helps those who help themselves, so what is it that we are waiting on?