-so, why are people trying to marry me off?
-I have heard all of the same things...
-you're a great catch!
-you could make a great wife!
-Blah, blah, blah....
-like I don't already know all of that, duh
-then they turn around and say, well maybe it's you
-as if to say that just because i am running down 28 y.o. in my bcbg boots sans ring that I am surely the "problem"
-I mean seriously implying that because I am not married, I am flawed, or defective
-why can't it be that I am simply not one to settle?
-I think I'll just wait on what I know I need, like, and want
-I know it seems as if I'm sitting in traffic on the Dan Ryan when I could have easily taken the El and been there an hour ago
-I don't know what's been up with me and the analogies lately
-my apologies for the reflective aside
-anyway...I've been there, tried that
-you wouldn't believe what I have had to encounter to reach my intended destination
-let me just say, in past situations, I have not been a happy camper
-certain things I can ride with
-others, not so much
-tings me no can do (accent included)...
-just downright lazy
-forever stupid
-consistently broke-means he can't plan
-futuristically broke-means he doesn't want to plan
-lackluster-I'm bright and shiny, what do I need a tarnished dude for?
-ambitionless (this one refers back to futuristically broke-they go hand in hand)
-I'm wondering how long I should make this list
-should I write what I'm thinking, or be considerate of my readers?
-bare with me
-I gotta list a few more
-funky-this one requires no further explanation
-or so stuck on himself that he's always in the mirror, while obviously not leaving me any space to check my hair!
-talk about infuriating!
-so friends, I am so not interested in those pseudo-happenstance meetings that you keep trying to set up
-I'll meet "him" when I'm ready
-and who knows...
-I may know this dude already ;-)
-if not, I still think I'll wait...I'm in no rush!
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8 years ago
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Amen to that sista! I know the feeling. My dad tried to the impose the "you're a late bloomer" speech on me when I was TWENTY THREE!!! But, like you, I was unwilling to settle. You're right to not let other people define your reality. It's best to be whole on your own, ready and willing to wait, insteading of settling for some clown, confused into thinking that he'll make your life complete. Hats off to you darling! (Not to echo all your other fans, but...) You are a great catch! The man who finds you will know he's found a good thing. And he'll come correct enough to make you feel the same way.
Peace and blessings,
Nana
I know that's right!!!
I don't know why friends, or worse, FAMILY feel the need to hypothesize our marital situations out loud and too our faces! #2 it's not their responsibility to solve what they perceive to be a problem, and #1, it's not an actual problem that has to be solved, it's a choice!
Girl, and can I just say it: I'm sitting right next to you in traffic!!! (in the S-L-O-W lane! LOL!) Especially with not only the knowledge, but, in some cases, direct contact with people in unhappy marriages, (2 specifically because they MARRIED TOO YOUNG! <--never wanted to be in that category!) I'm content right where I am!!!
I'm not saying I don't get lonely, or sad, or wish there was some "security" with those fingers running through my hair, but when I weigh the rush to the alter against the possible unhappy result 5 yrs from now, (to quote you in a previous blog) "I'm good!"
ps, Gone head and list however many you want...it's your blog! (and a mighty good read at that)
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