To My Sistahs...

Sistahs,

Over the last few years, I must say that I have discovered that being a "lady" is a dying sentiment. These letters are not meant to offend, I just want to bring to the forefront a topic that I feel is severely affecting my sistahs. So simply stated, if you are offended, read it again, because I'm probably talking about you. ;-)

I was brought up to believe that females were to act as ladies and that if a female presented herself as a lady, then she would be treated as such. I cannot even begin to count the number of times that I have heard a girl/woman say, "They don't know how to treat a lady." I must say that I do feel somewhat guilty about this, but my rhetorical response is always, "Well, most of them probably would if you even remotely acted like one." I know that sounds a little harsh, but those are my honest thoughts. With that being said, I have a couple of points to address.

1. You will be viewed as you display.
This is an important one and it is sooo based on common sense. If you don't want to be approached like a 'rat, stop dressing like a rat! Now of course there is always going to be that one token crazy fool that will approach you no matter what, but he's the exception. Seriously though, when God created women, he made some beautiful creatures. Everybody knows that. You have no need to show them every chance you get. Modesty and mystery are the tickets to being “truly” seen. If you just want to be seen, naked and nasty are the way to go. Sorry to be blunt, but I really think some of you need to hear this. You have to respect yourself before anyone else will.

This one is regarding a slightly different aspect of ladyship…

2. Stop hatin!
Personally, I have encountered more haters in my life than I deem necessary, which is why I feel this worthy of mentioning. How can you point out the lady impersonators? Look for the ones who are hatin on the real ladies! I don’t know about you, but I support my friends, family, and even strangers in their endeavors because I want them to succeed. Whether it be a business venture, marriage, or life choice, it is good to see people like us doing their thing! Why are some of you so upset at their success? If it seems as if I am singling “us” out, it is because I am.

I thought about writing these letters (they’ll be more) because I think this is stuff that just needs to be said. Just think, I am a woman/lady, if I feel this way about some of us, you just have to wonder what the men think. Hmmm...

P&B (Peace and Blessings) from one sistah to another,
Noe

What's Up With That?

• I just do not understand why people think I am so "together" all of the time.
• I wish they knew that on occasion, my stuff can be downright raggedy.
• I guess they would know that if I told them.
• Maybe I should.
• I feel that I should not have to.
• If they are my friends, they should know that about me right?
• Apparently not.
• Are they able to detect that I need a moment?
• Not exactly.
• Would they listen if I told them?
• Actively?
• Of course they would. They are my friends.
• Right?
• Sometimes instead of being the sounding board, I would like to make a little noise.
• AAAAHHHH!
• Sorry.
• That really didn't do it for me.
• I guess I need more than that.
• Anyone for drinks?
• Just kidding...sort of.
• Do people really see "me"?
• I mean beyond the exterior.
• Do I really want them to?
• Seriously. Do I?
• I'm tired.
• I need a break.
• I need to be "noelle" for a while.
• I'm sure you are like "huh?"
• Seriously. "noelle" and "NOELLE" are distinctly different personalities.
• There are others.
• Do I have DID (disociative identity disorder)?
• I feel that way on some days.
• Is today one of those days?
• Of course.
• Would I be writing this blog if it weren't?
• At this exact moment about this exact subject?
• Probably not.
• Okay, absolutely not.
• Is it just me, or does blogging seem easier when you are having a moment?
• Seriously.
• I think it is.
• Maybe I'll try to write my next one when I'm not having a moment.
• Should I really attempt that?
• I mean, come on.
• Do I really want to travel down that road?
• We'll see.
• I said I would never blog
• With that being said...I guess just about anything is possible.

Okay. I just had to come back to this. Before posting, I went back and read it. Since I promised myself that I would not erase any blogs, I just have to pull back and really think about the comments I just made.

While I am somewhat proud of the fact that I am able to portray myself as a "lady to be reckoned with," I also want to be able to get stuff off my chest. I want to be able to say exactly how I am feeling without people thinking that I'm going all Whitney Houston and cracking up and whatnot. Did you just laugh at that? Smile even? I thought that was funny. Sorry, tangent. Anyway, I just wanted to clear that up. It is not that I don't care about my peeps' problems, concerns, or issues. I just want to be able to breakdown too without people writing me off as losing my "NOELLE" presence. Afterthought, that sounds really arrogant ("NOELLE"), but I didn't identify the distinction between the two. Thanks K for pointing that out.